Social slip

It’s hard feeling like the whole world is judging you even worse that you base on people’s opinion to actually know your worth.Society has placed it’s own standards on us that deem us unfit in case we score below. It’s all about perfection..Do this do that be that nothing ever seems okay if it’s your thinking.They are the ones who know how you should dress,the one you should marry,when you should marry, what you should do, how and where you should work,the good friends. They know cause apparently you haven’t lived life yet to know the flow. What if you practiced the free cage system? Won’t the burden be less on you?And you would still get happy individuals wearing their flaws like they’re perfect but yet more satisfied with their experiences. Life is an experience worth living.Not posing for the cameras like everything is flawless, living in sheer pretence.We humans are flawed it’s hard accepting this but it’s reality.The one who has accepted this about us is God 🙏 (always forgiving and caring ).As for me I have already accepted the fact that sometimes am wrong ,sometimes am right.It’s one thing am not planning to hide in that I have room to be corrected and to learn more. Community can be very unforgiving when it comes to being judgemental. It will never forget to judge,to gossip, to compare, to expose all the wrong that is in the good you have done. They always work so hard to make you feel like you owe them an explanation of what is going on in your life but the honest truth is that you don’t.You explaining your entire life to individuals wanting to hear is a coax. You can’t stop people from talking about you but you can stop people from knowing about you. It’s not a defence mechanism,it’s a protective measure like they say prevention is better than cure.You ought to look into yourself but the question is do you feel am honest if I call you good? If not why do you feel that your undeserving to be called good then work on it, if yes then why doesn’t society think like you, my dear don’t pause continue living. Call me anti social but your life is yours and no one has a right to make you feel like you’re not enough. We all try to be the best,no one ever works hard to be average it’s just that things might not work out our way. Even when they work out the results may not be the best but it’s not like you’re not trying. Live your life your allowed to wheel wherever, with whoever,whenever there’s just no limits to what a person can be.Everyone wants to discover what is in life without intending to.You can’t be stuck living in the old ways society upholds.Times have changed society is taking long to catch up embrace the changes in a very acceptable manner. Don’t go out of line change doesn’t stand for disrespect it’s just the methods of doing things that differ but the purpose is the same. To build a better community that is more understanding without failing our individual selves. Many may fail to recognise it but it is the bitter truth. Choose comfort. Your vegan don’t eat meat. Anytime you want to do something do it for yourself. Your deserving of all the beauty that is life.If you ever feel the need to defend yourself then there’s a problem certainly remember the saying no smoke without fire.You want to enjoy your life live it on your own while upholding the values that lift you up in your esteem.Sensible people are accomodating they know how to embrace change if it doesn’t demean cultural values not everyone will fail to understand sense speaks sense remember this.

The crack in us

Mistakes can always teach you something; embrace, acknowledge and accept them

One thing I have noticed about people who make mistakes overtime is that aside from their inability to listen, they lack the humility to recognise their mistakes. Instead of finding a solution to their problems, they go all out just to defend their mistakes and to prove a point. There must be a reason why “I told you so” is persistent in your life, you got to work on your listening skills and not just to listen but to take in advice.

When your main target is set on achieving your goal, you may tend to overlook a few crucial things that people around you may notice. There’s no one who is perfect but should we continue to make the same mistakes by simply dwelling on our inability to achieve perfection? It suddens me how people are willing to settle for less because they are tired of moving, of starting over and over again. Did all your experience mean nothing at all? Surely it meant something.

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Perfection is a long way coming but almost doesn’t count. No wonder, they say, “action speaks louder than words.” There’s got to be a reason why you are still moving at a time you must be settled, work on you. That desire; that longing to find a Cinderella shoe that fits just perfect for your prince charming (lol girls can best relate) should be the drive. Don’t let anger, hurt, resentment, and disappointment be the fuel because it will drain you of your energy. You will give more than is due and eventually wasting some of it. Your drive should come from a place of calmness. Calmness just sends enough energy in the right direction. Calmness gives enough, it sets the right pace, the right environment, there’s no waste with it, and it’s totally peace.

Don’t let anger define you

Before the anger spills out, burn it down. Only you know how much damage it has done to you. Imagine the harm it will do if it begins to pour out. The world is already bleeding we need to give more hope, love, and faith to effect the changes we need for a peaceful world. Being strong is really hard so you must really desire to see change to endure such unfairness.

Be the change, show love

Enough of ‘the world is this the world is that’. People are mean and will be mean for all the selfish reasons but you can be the change, the peace, and the love the world requires. We can’t resign to the usual definitions of the the world yet we can redesign it into a more beautiful scenery even when evil continues to prevail. The answer is humility before God and then man. You will still make a few mistakes but I guarantee you will get it right in a short time with little or no damage. Patience is key, you must be willing to wait on the good things. They never come easy but their impact is fulfiling. I think people should work to be better, to do better and not to prove the world otherwise. Better is a direction worth taking. Never let mistakes define you; instead let them redefine, refine, redirect you. It should be the start of something new. It should rise a new you, redirect you to everything new in your career, finances, relationships and school but before that we must be willing to see the faults in us. It’s all growth, you can still win with your imperfections.

What it is

Love moves mountains they say but isn’t it because of the courage it gives to face all the uncertainties in life.To love is death when it is over but heaven on earth when the sailing is smooth.That it is pain yet when it made us giggle and laugh at the silliest of things it borne life.It is said love a little to avoid pain.I still wonder if half baked bread still tastes as good as fully cooked bread. I know the difference is so obvious and huge. Fully cooked bread lasts longer and easier to preserve unlike the later. How does a feeling that arouses so much happiness create such strong fear?Let us learn to enjoy the extremes of things they impose the greatest and fastest impact.Small portions never satisfy at ago you will crave for more and more. Every decision with it’s consequences even when you choose to do nothing it will still cost you.Innocent men in prison are the saddest imagine being executed for a crime you didn’t commit do something but in all you do be accountabe. Why limit ourselves because of the fear of the unknown. Enjoy today while you still consider the future.Disappointments cause grief but it pushes us to grow because you get to experience what you were not prepared for. Survival has no formulae what kills one can elevate another.Never gauge how far you can go basing on what others have been through.Its okay to be different uniformity always teaches one thing yet life offers variety. Variety means no end.Conformity is boring but uniqueness triggers interest.Forgive the unforgivable love the unloveable the coming day is not promised live like your an aged person trying to do the things you missed out while young. Dont store for the future what ought to be lived today but while you live consider the Lord Almighty. The choice still remains yours but Judgement belongs to the Almighty.

WISH OTHERS THE BEST AND THE BEST SHALL COME TO YOU IN RETURN

We all know that to get, you must give and the good you do to others will surely find its way back to you. Similarly, the reverse is true. The bad you do to others will with no doubt find its way back to you. This is a principle that can neither be changed nor be ammended to suit any individual’s agendas. The aftermath of your good or bad actions towards others may be immediate or even happen long after a time span.
Sometimes the effect meay not even happen to you but it could come to your children or anyone close to you. You’ve at least at one point in time heard of children paying for the misdeeds of their parents or enjoying the rewards of the good deeds of their parents even long after the parents are gone.
What’s my point in all this? I am simply trying to put across a doctrine of the value of not just doing good to others but to also wish them the best.

Sometimes we do good to others just because people are watching us and all we want is to prove a point that we are good. But to wish someone well is an inner attitude of good faith. It’s only God who can see that. Here is a scripture that amazes me. Its in 1Corinthians 9:7, “So let each one give as he purposes in his heart, not grudgingly or of necessity; for God loves a cheerful giver.”
This scripture teaches me a few things,
» A person can give without purposing in heart
» A person can give grudgingly
» A person can give becuase its a necessity (by law)
» A person can give while uncheerful.
All of the above scenarios make your giving just a formality in the eyes of God.

Wishing others well and probably the best comes straight from the heart and in return, you will be wished the best not only from people but from God as well. They say a picture tells a thousand words and I say a story tells a thousand lessons. Here is a story that will help you understand the value of wishing others the best. Actually whenever you wish someone else the best, it means you are not selfish.
There were two brothers who lost their parents at a tender age. These brothers stuck together and decided to work their way out. They farmed together and tilled the land for survival. At the end of every harvest, they would share the grain equally as a reward for their efforts.
Later, the elder brother married and had a family of two children but they continued to work together and share equally the harvest.
One day, the younger brother who wasn’t married thought to himself, “I am not married and I don’t need much grain to sustain myself.”
“My brother is married with two kids and I think he needs more grain and it is unfair to receive an equal portion of the harvest,” he said.
Therefore, at night the younger brother picked a sack of grain from his portion and secretly took it to his elder brother’s storehouse. He did that every night out of good faith.

Meanwhile, the elder brother had also thought to himself, “I am married with children and they will sustain me when I get old.”
“My younger brother has no one who would take care of him in old age and I think he needs more grain that will sustain him when he gets old,” he said. “It is unfair to share an equal portion with him, he needs more,” he added.
At night, the elder brother picked a sack of grain from his portion and took it to the young brother’s storehouse stealthily. He did that each and every night.

To the surprise of these brothers, they noticed that there was no decrease in the grain from their storehouses yet everyone did take off one sack at night. One would expect the number of sacks to reduce since they take off one sack each night. But every morning, the sacks numbered the same. None of the brothers could explain this phenomenon.

One night, the two brothers coincidentally met each other as they were carrying sacks of grain taking it to another’s storehouse. They explained to each other what they had been doing. It was a time of hugging and shedding tears for what they discovered.

How great it is to wish others the best and go ahead to do that practically. I hope you’ve picked something from the story and I basically have nothing to add to it. Pick a leaf from it and fulfill your purpose on earth as a child of God. Be blessed.

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THE SECRET OF SUCCESS

I woke up feeling the urge to share this short story. The author of this short story is unknown to me but I found this being the masterpiece of all stories I have read. The illustration of how our desire determines our success is so outstanding that even the blind will surely see the lesson in it.

Here is the shot story.
Once a young man asked the wise man, Socrates,  the secret to success. Socrates patiently listened to the man’s question and told him to meet him near the river the next morning for the answer. The next morning Socrates asked the young man to walk with him towards the river. As they went in the river  the water got up to their neck. But to the young man’s surprise Socrates ducked him into the water.

The young man struggled to get out of the water, but Socrates was strong and kept him there until the boy started turning blue. Socrates pulled the man’s head out of the water. The young man gasps and took a deep breath of air. Socrates asked, ‘What did you want the most when your head was in the water?” The young man replied, “Air.” Socrates said, “That is the secret to success. When you want success as badly as you wanted the air while you were in the water, then you will get it. There is no other secret.”

Moral of the short story:

A burning desire is the starting point of all accomplishment. Just like a small fire cannot give much heat, a weak desire cannot produce great results.

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DON’T COMPARE YOUR SUCCESS TO SOMEONE ELSE

I was listening to one of the most prominent and respectable speaker in my country. He said something so profound that it tickled my subconscious mind leaving me with a lot to ponder about. His financial status ranks very low in the pecking order according to financial analysts. Well, maybe that is non of my business.

This man was speaking and he authoritatively declared that he is the riches man in his generation. Hearing him say this sounded insane. My mind ran straight to world statistics to bring out comparisons of the richest men on Earth and their networth. I quickly concluded that this speaker is no where closer to being rich if compared to statistics I had pulled up in my mind regarding the richest men in the world.

Suddenly, he backed his acclamation by staying, “I am the richest man not compared to any other person but rather compared to the person I was before today.” This was my turning point in relation to what being rich is and what being successful really is.

Many at times, it’s a human propensity to measure the level of success by comparison to another. This is a misleading criteria altogether. I had the same belief until I listened to that speaker. I now know that my success is compared to how I was yesterday not to how someone else is. Young men and women are frustrated in their endeavors to pursue success because they keep peeping into the hustles of their mates, make comparisons and draw conclusions.

There is no need to measure your success in comparison to you mates. A friend of mine called me for a talk over what she said was disrupting her thoughts lately. I gave her an appointment and we had an evening chat with a cup of coffee on a chilly Monday evening. I accorded her uttermost attention as she made her narrations. What seemed a long explanation of her issue was just summarized in a statement. She complained of how her school mates and age mates are all getting married, buying property and doing businesses. Her conclusion was that she was being disturbed by it and she was seeing herself as a failure.

I know you are now surfing through your mind to check how your mates are doing financially, spiritually and physically in relation to your standing. It is normal but don’t use it as criteria to determine your position in the web of success. Everyone’s life is a book that is written at a different rate depending on so many factors. We read at different paces and at any point in time, we are on different pages. Your first page maybe someone else’s last page or middle page. The rate at which one writes their life’s storybook is totally none of your business. Just do your part, write you life’s storybook book at your pace.

Always compare your success to no one but to yourself. How you were yesterday is not how you are today. At least you have added a day to your age. Isn’t that success? Don’t worry about how everyone else is fairing. Worry about how you are progressing and work upon improving yourself.  I know of a workmate who keeps checking on how others are dressed just to determine whether she is smart or not. One time I was shocked when she asked me to compare her hairstyle with other workmates’ just to see if hers was good. Like seriously why all the stress?

I just want to tell you that you are the best version of yourself. STOP RATING YOUR LEVEL OF SUCCESS IN COMPARISON TO OTHERS. 
“Personality begins where comparison leaves off. Be unique. Be memorable. Be confident. Be proud.” ~Shannon L. Alder” You can never be someone else. You can only be yourself. Embrace who you are, what you have and how you are. Try to do what is possible and leave what is impossible to God. God is steadily writing your success story. Lastly, God doesn’t consult history to write your story. Have a fruitful day as you endeavor to succeed.

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DON’T LOSE HOPE

Hope is the feeling of expectation and desire for a particular thing to happen. A time will come when you feel hopeless about yourself maybe because you see no way through. At a certain point in time life puts you in a place where the road seems to have ended and hope becomes a distinct attribute. The winds of the world can mean to swing you around that you even lose your sense of direction. While all these things happen to you on life, as long as you are still alive keep that HOPE alive and burning. That is what will save you.

A live dog is so much better than a dead lion. As long as you still have the breathe of life, then there is still hope. Don’t give up. God did not bring you that far to let you fail or lose. For our God is able to do exceedingly and abundantly above all that we ask or think according to the power that works within us (Ephesians 3:20). The power of God only works in they that are living. The promises of God are YES and AMEN. Giving up should not be an option if you believe you are a child of God. If you lose hope, then definitely your FAITH is gone too.

Always have hope that things will get better. No situation is permanent and I can assure you at an appointed time, things will work out your way. Be hopefully always and let faith be your wheel power to fulfill God’s will. There is light at the end of the tunnel however long and dark the tunnel may be.

KEEP THAT HOPE ALIVE AND BURNING

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ATTITUDE DETERMINES YOUR ALTITUDE

The original author of this piece is unknown to me but every time I read it, I feel encouraged and I believe someone out there will be encouraged as well. It will definitely change your attitude and altitude. Clement Stone Quotes. “There is little difference in people, but that little difference makes a big difference. The little difference is attitude. The big difference is whether it is positive or negative”

Let’s go. The only bird that dares to peck at an eagle is the crow. He sits on his back and bites his neck. However, the eagle does not react nor fight with the crow. He does not waste his time or energy with the crow.

The eagle responds by simply opening it’s wings and soars higher in the heavens elevating to higher altitude. The higher the flight, the harder it becomes for the crow to breath and eventually the crow falls off due to lack of energy. That is how keeping a positive attitude will elevate you to great altitude where your nemesis cannot survive.

Many at times we have people around us who criticize, discourage and rubbish what we do in our endevours in life. Let’s take such people to be crows sitting on our backs trying to peck at us. Surprisingly, how we react or respond to such people determines our downfall or uplift.

The secret is to keep a positive attitude and soars to tower heights in what we do. At some point, these people will not be able to endure the harsh conditions at high altitudes and they will fall off.

On the other hand, if you choose to fight back, you are simply having a negative attitude. You will waste a lot of energy and time fighting back at such weak enemies. In the end, your destiny will be hindered. You cannot fly higher when at the same time you are attempting to fight back at the crow.

Let us try using the eagle’s tactics. Just fly high enough that your enemy will fall off your back.

Thanks for reading but remember to apply this knowledge and in the long run, you will thank me.
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THE YEAR THAT WAS 2020

The year 2020 has been ended, there is no doubt about that. One thing I am sure of is that the person reading this piece is soundly alive and kicking. That’s the most important achievement and the greatest gift of all. So much transpired in 2020 that to some us our historical books are filled to capacity.We have seen and testified to things that we had never imagined neither witnessed. But all in all, they too came to pass. The year like any other others had the good, bad and ugly. To me a believer, all is would is that let God’s will be done. The scripture says “And we know that all things work together for good to those who love God, to those who are called according to His purpose.” Romans 8:28. If you think in 2020 you have achieved nothing, think about those that achieved everything but are now buried. Thank be to God almighty that you and I are still alive and kicking.
2020 is the year of thought I would get everything I wanted. At the end of it, I have come to realization that 2020 has been a year I appreciated everything I still have. To sum up everything, 2020 has made me a battle hardened warrior tested and tried. My prayer in 2021 is that I may be able to put into practice all the life lessons I have learned the hard way from the past year. The past is gone, the present is now and the future is yet to come.
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When life pulls you backwards

Life is a mix of all sorts of things. The paths we take in life can never be the same and the hurdles we have to jump along our various paths are way too different. Challenges come and go while others seem to persist. Nevertheless, life still moves on, it never stops.

When everything is moving straight as planned, we wish it continues that way. We make plans, draw up schedules, design timetables and make arrangements and appointments as a way of creating a smooth running of our day today life. By all means, we fight tooth and nail to see our efforts come to fruition.

Unfortunately, challenges come in unexpectedly and uninvited. Whether you embrace challenges or not, they will never stop knocking at your door. Setbacks in life will always come no matter how perfect your strategies are. In most cases we the Christian believers put the blame on the devil as being the cause. Well, that is right after all the devil came to steal, kill and destroy. On the other hand, God can also bring challenges your way so as to test your faith. God can allow setbacks to come your way. The good news is that if it is from God, then it’s is for your own good. The holy scriptures vividly bring out this. Various characters in the Bible went through challenges that God allowed to come their way. Surely, those that passed the test of faith become exceedingly triumphant.

Once you go through a setback, it is an opportunity to get back to the drawing board and reorganize your strategies. When life pulls you backwards, it is a learning point for you to check where you went wrong, where to make amendments and forge a new way forward. Therefore, always embrace setbacks and use them to relaunch. An arrow can only be launched by pulling it backwards. So when life is dragging you back with difficulties, setbacks and challenges, it means that it is going to launch you into something great. So just focus and keep aiming.

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THE 8-POINT STRATEGY TO KEEP A HIGH SELF-ESTEEM

With no doubt, there is no public speaker, no motivational speaker, no counselor, no parent, no teacher, no politician and no preacher on the face of the earth that has never preached about self-esteem. Usually every person defines self-esteem differently depending on the speaker’s agenda and the audience being addressed but the ultimate message intended to be conveyed is always directed to the same direction.

In my sense of understanding, I define self-esteem as confidence in one’s own worth and abilities. Just plainly like that. Self-esteem can be “Inflated”, “Low” or “High”. The fact is that everyone knows or has experienced a low self-esteem or a high self-esteem at some point in life. Therefore, let me just say something about the “Inflated” type of low self-esteem. This is a situation when one feels extremely high about themselves that they end up belittling others in so doing. I would relate “Inflated” self-esteem to over confidence.

All that said, I try as much as possible to keep my head high and my nose wide open to the smell of a new day. My self-esteem is hit hard by external factors but I fight to always maintain the flow despite the adversity that attempts to put me down routinely. Here is my eight point list of how I keep my self-esteem high. One or two of these strategies could intersect with yours. Do you want to keep your self-esteem high, try these strategies.

1. LIVE EACH MOMENT WITH GREATNESS

Life is made of short moments that come and pass. The little stories, the the unforgettable experiences, the family hiking, school friends and everything around us build up our life and engrave unforgettable memories down the lane of life.

Don’t let the moment pass by you without making something out of it. Life is lived once and you ought to make the best out of it. Live every moment with greatness that when you look back at the road that you travelled you should be able to retrace the unerasable footprints of joy, love and peace.

Take charge of your moment with greatness and never let anyone put you down. Build your self-esteem so strong that no wind, no storm and no power can break you down or even detar you from enjoying the best of the moment. Don’t wait for tomorrow to be happy, you have no guarantee that you will be breathing the next day. Live each moment with greatness. Embrace the moment, take charge of the moment and utilise the moment.

2. MAKE USE OF EVERY OPPORTUNITY TO THE BEST
Opportunities come and go. The doors of opportunities will always show up to you. Always be prepared in season and out of season so that when an opportunity knocks at your door, the hinges of your door will swing wide to let the opportunity in.

Have you ever heard of a statement “seize the moment”? Well, seizing the moment means to take full advantage of life’s opportunities whenever and wherever they present themselves; to live life to one’s full potential. I’ve tried to get the most out of life by always seizing the moment. The secret to seizing the moment lies in doing the best rather than being the best. Quite often we get frustrated for not being the best at something but the fact is you may not be the best but you can do your best.

“It is better to be prepared for an opportunity and not have one than to have an opportunity and not be prepared.” Whitney M. Young, Jr. I surely agree with this because preparation brings out the best in us. Do your best and utilise every moment and in so doing, high self-esteem will become your middle name.

3. MANAGE YOUR ENPs (Expectations, Needs and Promises)
ENPs play a big role in building or crushing our self-esteem. Have you ever set your expectations so high that you felt like a loser when they turned upside down? One mistake you should not make is having extremely high expectations in someone or something without leaving room for doubt. Extremely high expectations will crumble your self-esteem when the odds turn out not to be in your favour. It’s good to set the bar high for always leave room for doubt so that you are not totally dismayed when things go otherwise.

In life we have needs and wants. Priority must be geared towards attaining needs first then the wants should come in as a bonus to the works of your hands. It’s a grave mistake to build your self-esteem around wants rather than needs. Don’t feel down because you don’t have a car and forget that you are among the few privileged to have a roof above your head where you stay. Build your self-esteem around needs; the necessities of life as you slowly but surely work towards attaining the wants. In other words, esteem yourself in what you already have rather than putting your esteem down because of what you don’t have.

Promises, promises, promises. Promises have built relationships but no forgetting that promises have broken down relationships as well. Have you ever made a promise to someone and failed to fulfill it? How did you feel when you met that person? I don’t want to read your imagination but personally I wished the ground to open up and swallow me when I came across someone whom I had failed to fulfill the promise I had made to them. I felt worthless in front of that person. My self-esteem rapidly dropped to negative. Therefore be careful what promises you make to people and endeavor to fulfill the promises that you make, this will save you a great deal of esteem related problems.

4. KEEP POSITIVE AT ALL TIMES
Now here the ball is in your hands and it’s your choice to make whether to see the glass as half full or as half empty. Being optimistic is just being hopeful and having confidence about the future or the successful outcome of something. This doesn’t rule out the fact that the outcome can be unpleasant. The point is how you choose to perceive the outcome whichever.

Being positive is simply making sense of bad events and that is positive thinking. Positive thinkers are not blind to reality as people perceive it, specifically negative thinkers. They are not deaf to the cries of those in need. They do not pretend or ignore or walk around with their heads in clouds and fake-smile their way through life. Optimists see suffering, pain and misfortune like anyone else, but they don’t dwell on such things. As a matter of fact, since positive thinkers believe that there are solutions to seemingly intractable problems, they are more likely to do something about all the suffering and pain in the world than negative thinkers. And that is the difference.

For example, imagine two students who get the same poor grade in an exam. The first student thinks, “I’m such a failure! I always do poorly in this subject. I can’t do anything right.” The second student thinks, “This test was difficult! Oh well, it’s just one test in one class. O twend to do well in other subjects.” These two students clearly bring out the meaning of negative thinking and positive thinking.

Positivity and self-esteem are identical twins. You can never have a high self-esteem when you think negative about your situation, yourself and others. Confess positively at all times, declare positively always. Fight so hard to always look at the sunny side of everything and the aftermath will be unbreakable high self-esteem.

5. KNOW WHERE YOU GET YOUR COUNSEL FROM
In life we have so many mischiefs in relationships, our careers, marriages, family issues and so forth. Sometimes you feel you are pressed against the wall that you seek someone to talk and probably get some counsel. Remember when you are going through such trying moments in life, your self-esteem always makes it’s way down the pecking order. This means that the person you seek counsel from must be able to pick up your broken pieces of self-esteem and mend them back.

In my research, I have discovered that there are three kinds of people from whom we seek counsel and they categorizes depending on the outcome of their cousel.
a) The uplifters (leave you uplifted)
There are people in our lives that will leave you uplifted when you talk to them about your problem. Normally, such people are good listeners, give you time and respect your privacy. They will thoughtfully give the most appropriate piece of advice. They are so affectionate that your self-esteem will be boosted by just their words even if they give you nothing tangible. Imagine talking to a counselor who doesn’t respect your privacy and before you know it, all your friends know what you talked with the counselor in privacy. That would be so devasting. It will not only kill your self-esteem but will also kill the trust and professional ethic of that counselor. Be mindful of who you talk to about your problems.
b) The sinkers (sink you deeper)
Some people are gifted in worsening situations. There is a friend I once talked to about my relationship issue and believe me he only dug my grave deeper. He left me regretting why I sought counselor from him. In most cases such people delight on your problems and when you talk to them, they only sink you deeper into your sorrow. Sometimes they are just not good at giving proper advice. They are always negative and all they do is to find fault in you. Choose wisely who you seek counsel from.
c) The confusers (leave you at cross roads)
I have a friend who believes that if he cannot convince you, he will confuse you. This is funny but it is very possible that you can seek counsel from someone and only come out even more confused. They will leave you at crossroads. Normally, such people want to help but maybe they just don’t have the proper expertise or professionalism to do it. They get confused and confuse you as well. Still, be careful of who you seek counsel from.
All the above categories of people will have a great deal of impact on your self-esteem in the end of it all. The uplifters will leave your self-esteem high, the sinkers will surely erase away even the little self-esteem to that you had before seeing them. The confusers will leave it in your hands to decide between high and low self-esteem.

6. READ THE WORD OF GOD ON A DAILY BASIS
This will only make sense to the believers in God. For the none believers, this will not make sense at all. Excuse me for this but that is what it is.

The word of God uplifts the downtrodden, mends the heartbroken, picks up the broken pieces and puts you back together. Once more, this is only through faith for those who believe in God. I have real quite a number of books the world considers best selling but I have not found a book that is so positive as the Bible. The core of the holy scriptures penned down in the Bible is postive decrees and confessions.

In fact, Proverbs 18:21 puts it this way: “The tongue has the power of life and death.” The stakes are high. Your words can either speak life, or your words can speak death. Our tongues can build others up, or they can tear them down. There is no better way of building a high self-esteem than confessing positively about yourself.
The Bible is an encyclopedia having solutions to all the problems this world has ever seen. The word of God is described as the candle that guides our feet, the word is life, the word is a hammer to crush rocks, the word is a double edged sword. In a nutshell the Bible declares that the word of God is life in it’s totality.

I boost my self-esteem by reading the word daily, repeatedly searching out scriptures and continuously seeking the knowledge of God. One more time, this only works for those that sincerely believe in God.

7. ALWAYS PUSH YOURSELF TOWARDS MAKING A DIFFERENCE.
Whenever you make a difference whether in your community, school, workplace or at home, you feel useful in some way. You feel needed and you start believing in yourself and that is what self-esteem calls for. Is there anything you can do to make a difference around you? Just do it for God’s sake however small it may be.

Make a difference in people’s lives. Live to make a difference so that you create the world you would like to see. Reach out to the needy, lift the downtrodden, love people, give back to people and you will be the needed person. You are more than capable to make a difference. You have what it takes and the worth to change someone’s situation.

Do you know how you could feel when you walk down along the road and everybody points to you and says it’s because of him that I am what I am today? The feeling when people point there success to you is such an uplifting catalyst to your self-esteem. There strive to make a difference within your circles and you become one of the people with a high self-esteem.

8. LOVE WHO YOU ARE NOT WHO YOU WILL BE.
You are who you are not who you will be. What you are now matters more than what you will be. Love yourself for who you are now. You cannot say you love people until you have loved yourself first. Self-love is what will make you loves others. We all have expectations to be better tomorrow but we are not there yet. We are living in today.

Loving oneself is important. It helps us care for our mind, body and spirit. When we have self-love it changes how we respond to life and drives the decisions we make. Fortunately, self-love is an ever-evolving process.

Therefore love your today as you wait for what tomorrow brings.
Remember today is the tomorrow you worried about yesterday. Love who you are and this will raise the bar so high concerning self-esteem.

As I conclude, self-esteem is contagious. Try as much as possible to associate with people who have impeccable high self-esteem and as a matter of fact, you will as well be infected with a high self-esteem. Thanks, till next time

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ATTITUDE DETERMINES YOUR ALTITUDE

The original author of this piece is unknown to me but every time I read it, I feel encouraged and I believe someone out there will be encouraged as well. It will definitely change your attitude and altitude. Clement Stone Quotes. “There is little difference in people, but that little difference makes a big difference. The little difference is attitude. The big difference is whether it is positive or negative”

Let’s go. The only bird that dares to peck at an eagle is the crow. He sits on his back and bites his neck. However, the eagle does not react nor fight with the crow. He does not waste his time or energy with the crow.

The eagle responds by simply opening it’s wings and soars higher in the heavens elevating to higher altitude. The higher the flight, the harder it becomes for the crow to breath and eventually the crow falls off due to lack of energy. That is how keeping a positive attitude will elevate you to great altitude where your nemesis cannot survive.

Many at times we have people around us who criticize, discourage and rubbish what we do in our endevours in life. Let’s take such people to be crows sitting on our backs trying to peck at us. Surprisingly, how we react or respond to such people determines our downfall or uplift.

The secret is to keep a positive attitude and soars to tower heights in what we do. At some point, these people will not be able to endure the harsh conditions at high altitudes and they will fall off.

On the other hand, if you choose to fight back, you are simply having a negative attitude. You will waste a lot of energy and time fighting back at such weak enemies. In the end, your destiny will be hindered. You cannot fly higher when at the same time you are attempting to fight back at the crow.

Let us try using the eagle’s tactics. Just fly high enough that your enemy will fall off your back.

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REACTION Vs RESPONSE

“When you REACT, you are giving away your power. When you RESPOND, you are staying in control of yourself.” Bob Proctor.
This quote gives a much thoughtful insight into the meanings of Reacting and Responding.

At some point, undoubtedly you have either reacted or responded to a situation. The two may seem to be similar but are very different in actual sense.

Let us start with reacting. Whenever we encounter a stimulus, the body tends to act accordingly. Reacting happens when one cannot hold their control over a situation. It comes as a result of acting without thinking. In other words, reacting is a result of instant thinking.

A reaction happens so quick to counteract any action and hence doesn’t give space to analyze the situation.
Reacting is more of a defensive measure and always only considers the position of oneself.
More energy is dispensed during a reaction.

On the other hand, responding is more thoughtful reply to a situation. It is a slow process but in the end avails much. This can only happen when a person has control over oneself whenever they are provoked.

Responding is likened to a Bible verse that says “A soft answer turneth away wrath: but grievous words stir up anger.” Proverbs 15:1. For one to respond, it means they are able to control their emotions and make judgement after careful analysis of a situation at hand.

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LISTEN TO THE INNER VOICE

Have you ever got stuck at the crossroads of thoughts? There is a time when you have to fight a tag of war of making that life changing decision. You find your self in the valley of decisions and all you have to do is choose just one option. Think of a moment when you are supposed to choose between wrong and right but both options seem to be the same and you have to rely on your intuition to make the right choice.

“Should I go to the right or to the left?” you ask yourself. Think of a time when you are in the darkest hour and you feel like giving up. That time when you are pushed against the wall and you feel like the going has come to an end. Imagine you are looked up in a room and you feel like the roof is caving in on you. Giving up seems to be the most immediate and easiest choice amidst such drama.

When you are facing such life situations, there is always a voice inside your mind pointing to the right direction. This is called the inner voice. It requires you to give a deaf ear to the outer surrounding voices. This voice is always so distinctive and only those that are able to listen to it capture the message. To hear this voice, one has to put away their troubles, forget the situation at hand and calm their mind. But how can one have a peace of mind amidst problems? The answer is just one. TURN TO GOD. He will give you peace that surpasses human understanding.

God speaks during our darkest hours, he moves during our weakest points, he draws nigh unto they that call upon him. When you feel like you can’t go anymore, get into quietness and listen to the divine voice. The solution lies in there. If you correctly hear the voice, interpret it well and understand it, you will make the perfect decision that will soar you out of the troubles.

WHO IS TO BLAME?

A certain man found his wife with another man in his bedroom. Instead of shouting or beating both of them he just went back to the sitting room. He switched on the Television and started watching some gospel videos. The wife and the boyfriend were in panic.

The boyfriend dressed up and came by the sitting room then he said “Sir I am sorry for sleeping with your wife” Husband “It happens you can go” The boyfriend left. The wife never came out from the bedroom till it was time to sleep. The husband switched off the Television and went to sleep in the bedroom. He found her wife sitted on the floor crying. The husband never said anything or even asking her. He just slept on his bed and covered with some blankets.

In the morning when he woke up, he found his wife dead. The wife commited suicide in the middle of the night as her husband was sleeping. The husband was jailed for 20 years for murder.

QUESTION:
Who was not fair ?
1.The husband
2.The wife or
3.The law?
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HOW TO MINIMIZE EXPENSES WITHOUT COMPROMISING YOUR STANDARD OF LIVING

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The global economy has been hit very hard. To recover from this pit, it will not only require time to heal but will also require certain measures to facilitate the healing process. The global lockdown caused by the COVID-19 pandemic has not left anyone the same. Some people have learnt something new while others have unlearned certain things.

One aspect of life that has been adversely affected is the management of personal finances. Spending without earning is a tricky thing yet it has been the order of the day in this lockdown. People have adapted to finding ways of survival by adjusting their expenditures and financial preferences taken into consideration.

While trying to minimize costs, at the same time think of how it affects your standard of living. Here are ten strategies you can practice from now on that will help you minimize spending your little money without lowering your standard of living. I hope you will learn something so that next time a catastrophe like this doesn’t take you by surprise.

Prioritize needs and give less preference to wants.

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Let me define the terms “need” and “want” with simplicity. A need is something that is necessary for an organism to live a healthy life. In other words, it’s an essential thing. On the other hand, a want is something that is desirable. You can have a healthy life with or without it.
Exceptionally, there are certain things that gradually change from being wants to becoming needs and vice versa as circumstances change from time to time. For example, the internet has become a need as the situation demands for online working, online learning, online marketing and so forth.

Therefore, when drawing up a list of items to spend on, take into consideration the aspect of whether it is a need or a want. Rank high the “needs” and drop the “wants” down the pecking order. Give preference to the needs because the current situation calls for survival.

Buy products or services in bulk.

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One of the tricks companies use to maximize sales is this; the higher the quantity purchased, the lower the price. Take advantage of this trick to get the value of your money.

Take this example. Where I live, a 300ml bottle of soda costs UGX1,000. A 2litre bottle of the same soda costs UGX4,500. Mathematically, a 2litre bottle is equal to about 7bottles of 300ml that would cost UGX7,000. That’s the trick. You lose UGX2,000 to buy the same quantity of soda because you opted for small packaged bottles which look cheap but in the actual sense more costly.

Therefore try to buy big quantity packages and you will thank me later. The bigger the quantity purchased, the cheaper it is. Also look at this. A 300ml soda bottles costs UGX1,000 and a 500ml bottle of the same soda costs UGX1,500. When you do the calculations, the 500ml bottle of soda is cheaper.

This is a caution. Don’t buy perishable good in bulk unless you can preserve them. It will turn out to be a disadvantage if you can’t preserve them.

Find alternative suppliers and service providers that are relatively cheaper.

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In a world where competition is the driving force of most businesses, price wars have taken precedence in attaining customers. Leave alone that, there is something called price discrimination in business economics. This is the selling of the same good or service at different prices to different people at different locations.

This is very evident in my city where I live. The same product or service is attained at a cheaper price in downtown as compared to uptown. Same product or service, same quantity and quality but different suppliers or service providers. That is what makes the difference.

In such a time where we have to minimize spending, I would advise you to lower your ego and look for alternative service providers or product suppliers that offer the same services or products at cheaper prices.

Effectively utilise the products and services you have purchased.

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Give no room to wastage. I know you were used to wasting because there was plenty but now there is shortage due to low income. Utilise the goods and products you obtain as effective as possible to the last bit. Attach value to whatever resource is at hand.

At my neighborhood, I observed over time that they always had leftover food dumped in the bin. I would imagine to myself how they could not measure what is enough for them to avoid wastage. During the pandemic lockdown, I hardly found any leftover food dumped in the bin. I suppose the situation taught them a lesson.

That is what I mean by effectively using the resources. Use what is just enough for that time and keep the remaining for another day. Why would you keep the TV set on when you are not watching it? That is electricity being consumed yet you are not deriving the utility.

I remember back then when I could boil water to make tea but keep doing other things. By the time I make the tea, the water has already cooled and I have to reboil it. I realized that was wastage of power. Now, I only boil the water when I am ready to make tea to avoid reboiling the water. That is effective use of energy resources.

Make a budget before going to purchase items or services.

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Making a budget is one thing and sticking to it is another. Most people have this challenge of drawing a budget and not sticking to it. It’s really very hard. You will reach a supermarket and you see something you admire on the shelves yet it is not on your shopping list. It would take a high level financial discipline to stick to what is on the list.

However hard it is, try to keep within the limits of your budget. Otherwise you will end up buying what you didn’t intend to buy in the first place.
A simple remedy for this is not to carry excess money while you go for shopping. Just carry the amount totalled on your shopping list to avoid temptations of buying what is not included in the list.
Also the budget helps you to manage your financial records for those that tally their books of accounts. Draw a shopping list, stick to it and you will be safer that way.

Avoid consuming of different products or services that have the purpose at the same time. (Substitute good)

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I remember one time when I paid a visit to my friend’s family. I was shocked when they served me food. They had prepared beef, chicken and goat meat at the same time. I thought to myself why this was so. All meat serves the same purpose. Why prepare different kinds of meat at the same time? Well, that was their choice. May be they had plenty but in such times, that is not a good idea.

As long as the products offer the same purpose, please use them individually. There is no sense in subscribing for the TV and at the same time subscribe for mobile TV while at home. I mean you are home. Only pay for the home TV and watch that. You will only subscribe for the mobile TV while away from home. Isn’t that common sense?

While at home, don’t buy snacks and junk food and at the same time cook food. Since you are home, just prepare a good meal and eat with your family. Avoid double spending. Things that serve the same purpose should be applied individually to minimize costs. Thank you for understanding this simple logic.

Replace passive entertainment and leisure with active leisure.

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Have you realized that passive entertainment is more costly than the active leisure? Paying for TV subscription to watch soccer or a movie online is more expensive that jogging around my village in the evening. In fact, the later is more healthy and beneficial.

After all, the entertainment industry was on lockdown as well, so actively engaging in physical exercises comes in handy. I saw many people engaging in active exercises during the lockdown and I only wish this behavior does not end when the lockdown is lifted.

Save your body and money by engaging in active sports, games and plays. If you cannot engage in vigorous activities due to health complications, at least read a book or write ideas down as part of your leisure.

Develop a high buyer bargaining power

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The Bargaining Power of Buyers, one of the forces in Porter’s Five Forces Industry Analysis framework, refers to the pressure that customers/consumers can put on businesses to get them to provide higher quality products, better customer service, and/or lower prices.

There is a false norm especially among young people who have just attained some money. They believe that bargaining is for the broke people. They think that paying whatever price that is attached on a commodity or service is classy. That is very wrong. Bargaining is a business strategy acceptable anywhere especially for products or services that don’t have fixed prices.

Please always try to bargain. You will be surprised what you will save when you overpower the seller. Times are hard and don’t let your money be played with. Don’t let money easily leave your hands.

Eat healthy, mind your health, and always have preventive treatment.

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Eating expensively doesn’t mean eating healthy. A mango fruit costs 20times less than a piece of fried chicken. When you eat healthy, you save yourself the cost that comes after attaining health complications.

Mind your health, don’t take in whatever comes your way. Take enough water, limit sugary drinks, have enough sleep and rest. Give your mind peace. Most of these things don’t even cost a penny.

Don’t wait for a sickness to manifest before you start treatment. Try using immunity boosting products, go natural, minimize manufacturered drugs. Go green, go for herbs. They make wonders. And above all, herbs don’t have worries of overdose or side effects. All these save money in the long run.

Let every penny count

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The “keep the change” culture after buying something must be momentarily stopped at least for this period until the economy stabilises. I am not saying that giving a tip to someone in appreciation for their service is bad. I am simply saying, let every penny count. The financial situation is hard for everyone and therefore be as accountable as possible with your money.

There is this common story about Bill Gates that circulates the internet. When I read it, I learned something. Whether it is a real life story or an illustrative tale, I picked something out of it. Here is the story.  The claim says: Bill Gates in a restaurant after eating he gave $5 to the waiter as a tip. The waiter had a strange feeling on his face after the tip. Mr. Gates realized and asked, ‘What happened?’
Waiter: “I am just amazed because on the same table your son gave me a tip of $500 and you his father the richest man in the world gave just $5?” Gates smiled and replied: “He is the son of the world’s richest man, but I am son of a wood cutter.” 

Take whatever lesson you want from that simple illustrative tale and manage your expenses responsibly.

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THE WAY FORWARD AFTER LOSING THAT JOB

5 THINGS THAT WILL HELP YOU THROUGH

  1. TRY YOUR LUCK ELSEWHERE
    As we look at the five stategies of how to cope with a job loss during this global labour cut, I hope the last four points have been of help. Today we look at the final thing that you can do after that job is gone.

Try your luck elsewhere. Don’t lose hope, there is still hope. I know companies are laying off employees in a bid to lower operating costs. But at the same time, the same companies still need the labour. Therefore, they seek cheaper labour force to fill the gap. Keep applying for the jobs with any opportunity that comes your way. You never know you could land another lucrative job elsewhere after all you weren’t meant to be employed at on place forever.

Therefore try your luck elsewhere. You could be the lucky star out of a sea of many stars.

Thank you for following this series all along. I hope you will pick a leaf from any of these strategies to keep life moving after facing the axe at your workplace.

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THE WAY FORWARD AFTER LOSING THAT JOB

5 THINGS THAT WILL HELP YOU THROUGH

Read a book
  1. READ A BOOK. KNOWLEDGE IS POWER
    In this lockdown, I have read over 10books in various spheres. From self-help, personal growth, financial growth, spiritual growth and adventurous books. I believe I am not the same as I were before the lockdown. It was practically impossible for me to read a book after the day’s tiring work routines.

If you don’t read, no one will ever read about you. Have you lost the job and you have all the time seated home? Use that time fruitfully by picking a book to read. There is hidden treasure in books that could trigger something new in your life. Choose a genre of your desire and flip the pages.

Gone are the days when books were mainly in hardcopies and it required money to get one. Even the few e-books were for sale. As I speak now, there is a vast number of uncountable books all over the internet that are free or some of them cost as little as one dollar. There is no excuse when you have that smart phone with you and you can afford internet data for a day.

Grab yourself a copy of a book and impart some new knowledge in you. You have all the time. Probably, by the time you get another job, you would have read something new that could enhance your work ethics. It could be reading for fun and leisure, it’s all good. Utilise this time of your job loss to do something as meaningful as reading a book rather than wallowing in your own sorrow.

I will give you the last strategy of how to cope up with the job loss in this global pandemic aftermath tomorrow.

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See the good in the bad
  1. SEIZE THE MOMENT TO YOUR ADVANTAGE
    As the series continues, today we look at the third strategy of how you can cope up with a job loss. Let us talk about the fact that there is an advantage in every disadvantage. There is always an opportunity amidst trouble. It only takes a person with a go getter eye to see and realize that.

Are you aware that there are some people whose net worth just skyrocketed during this pandemic lockdown? When everyone was crying, these people have gained. Of course there are those that have profited by maliciously taking advantage of others but that is not our focus today. Our focus is to look at people who have managed to take advantage of the misfortune to survive. Such people have just discovered the advantage in the disadvantage in one way or another. You can also find that advantage hidden in this lockdown. It could be physical, spiritual, social or financial advantage.

Let me just give you my story. I am a Christian and I am a servant of the most High God. As you all know for a Christian to live in this ungodly world, they must be spiritually powerful. Over time I have found myself too busy to seek God, too tired to pray and fast, too committed to my job that I could barely find time to go into a quiet place for my spiritual nourishment. That is exactly what happens when you are working and more so if you are being employed. There is virtually no time to seek God. You have many excuses for not congregating on a Sunday.

Well, when our company closed operations during the lockdown, I was so dismayed just like any other person. On the contrary, I had my time back to reflect upon my life. It’s during this free time that I have found myself rejuvenating my spiritual life in prayer, fasting and studying the word because I have plenty of time to do that. Believe me or not I am now stronger in the Lord. Thanks for the lockdown. Where would I get all this free time to seek the face of God?

I took advantage of the moment to do what was seemingly hard when working because work consumes most of my day’s time.

In a nutshell, there is that one thing you haven’t been able to fulfil or do because you had limited time in the name of work. This is the time to do it. Since you lost the job, you have much time to work on yourself as you hope to get another job. It could be parenting, visiting relatives, doing exercises etc. Just do that thing you were unable to do while working because you didn’t have time.

I will give you the next strategy of how to cope up with the job loss in this global pandemic aftermath tomorrow.

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THE WAY FORWARD AFTER LOSING THAT JOB

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  1. BE CREATIVE (Try out something new)
    Being creative means taking risks and ignoring doubt and facing fears. It means breaking with routine and doing something different for the sake of doing something different. It means mapping out a thousand different routes to reach one destination.

I have discovered that many people can only be creative when pushed to the wall. The mind is quick to think when a problem arises. So here is the problem. You have lost a job and yet the daily expenses keep piling and you have to foot the bills. Creativity comes in handy as a solution. What is that thing you can do with ease? That is where you potential lies. Try it out. You will be amazed how things turn out.

Can you start up a small business in your home with the little savings you accrued? Turn your living room into an office. Try out crafts, embroidery, food business etc. In such a time, the creative minds will survive.

I have a friend who was an accountant professionally and was well employed until the lockdown stood in his way. When their company stopped working due to the Pandemic, many things changed. We all have witnessed how some commodities had their prices hit a bottom rock level. One of the items that had its price go really down was eggs. A tray of eggs on a normal occasion costs around 12,000UGX ($3). Surprisingly, during the lockdown, the tray of eggs went as below as 5,000UGX ($1.4).

What beat my mind is this accountant friend of mine took advantage of the low price and stocked a good number of trays of eggs. Just a month into the lockdown, the price of eggs rapidly shot back to the normal price. And as I am speaking right now, my friend is enjoying lucrative profits from the sell of the eggs. I am sure he doesn’t even wish to get back to the job.

Because of his creativity and trying out something new, this friend has finally found his true call. Now he is applying his accounting skills in his own business.

Therefore, when the job is gone, don’t regret, try out your creativity in something else.

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THE WAY FORWARD AFTER LOSING THAT JOB

5 THINGS THAT WILL HELP YOU THROUGH

  1. Remember how you used to live before the job.
    As the job cut is the order of the day for most companies all over the world in a bid to reduce production costs, the employees who are culprits are facing the cruel reality of trying to make ends meet. Am so sorry if you are part of the workers that have been laid off due to the pandemic. Surely, you are not alone. Well, the job is gone and that is a fact. You have to deal with it.

I know it hurts but life has to move on. Whether the job is there or it’s gone, life keeps going on. Don’t ask me how, why, or when? Just ask yourself this question. How was I living before I got this job. If you were able to live happily before that job, then you can happily live after it’s gone as you look for a permanent solution.

Therefore, try to look at how you used to live before the job came. Borrow a leaf from that lifestyle and move on. It is as simple as that.

I will give you the next strategy of how to cope up with the job loss in this global pandemic aftermath tomorrow.

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YOU ARE FIRED! What Next?

You were hired and now you are fired!

You are fired! This is the last and worst statement an employee would ever wish to hear from their employer. Once this statement is decreed from your boss, you have no choice but to vacate the company premises. With nothing you came, with nothing you leave.

The world economy on the macro level has been adversely shaken by the ongoing effects of the pandemic. The pandemic has not only robbed the world of precious lives but has also sabotaged the economy from the strongest to the weakest. The effects have left no stone unturned to the extent that even the strongest corporations have been brought to their knees.

As a result, financial controllers, companies, businesses and governments are looking for ways of surviving the cut. In so doing, last resort measures have been sought in a bid to minimize costs of operation for survival. Many companies are struggling to remain afloat and are willing to go an extra mile to do whatever it takes to cut costs while remaining in business.

Well, we all agree that even if it were you, you would be thinking the same way. The easiest and nearest option is labour cut down. Reduce the workers and proportion the workload amongst the remaining workforce. The world has witnessed millions of employees laid off without choice. Whether it is legal or illegal, it’s the most available option. Of course, employers can have some relief by this action but unfortunately the pain is felt more by the employees.

So you are fired! What next? Someone emailed me and told me how he had been axed from the job as part of cost cutting process. He asked me to stand with him in prayer for that matter. I politely answered him that prayer is no substitute for work and it is equally true work is no substitute for prayer. Don’t wait to be in trouble and then remember to pray because prayer is not a spare wheel but rather a steering wheel.

Back to the point. What next after you being fired? Under normal circumstances, when you get fired, the next move is always to apply elsewhere for another job. Unfortunately, for now that is not possible because no company can risk recruiting new labour force at such a time. As you are sitting in your living room thinking of all the bills, the debts and other necessities to be paid for, the question is how much longer can you go.

Well, two heads are better than one and I must confess that at one time I faced the challenge of embracing life after being fired from the job that had been taking all my time. I thought of how hard I had laboured to give the best for that job but there I was and it was gone. After sometime, I gathered myself and figured out a way forward.

I designed five strategies that helped me through the tough time as far as expenses were concerned. I adjusted in every aspect of life just to suit the change that had come. I realized key things that you can practice to minimize your daily expenses without adequately compromising with your standard of living. And above all, I discovered a long term solution to living without having to seek for a job. If you are not part of the solution, then you are part of the problem.

In the next five days I am going to share with you the five strategies you can try out to keep afloat as you get to terms with the fact that the job is gone. May God bless you.

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5/5 REASONS WHY WE NEED FRIENDS

The Unconditional Love Friend Give
  1. FRIENDS ARE UNDERSTANDING AND GIVE UNCONDITIONAL LOVE
    No one in the world understands our thinking, dreams and desires like friends do. The main objective of selectively choosing to do friendship is to be and relate with someone who understands and does not judge. Our friends generally have common ideologies and opinions hence it becomes simpler for them to perceive who you are just as the adage “birds of the same feathers flock together” goes.

Especially after school and college days, friends tend to go to different directions in life thus geographically separate. However, the hearts always remain together. With good friends, we are assured that even after years of separation, they will always show up when in need. It may be 3am in the night or 12 noon, friends are forever ready and willing to help as long as the assistance needed is within their ability and capacity.

Our parents love us because we are their children. Our wives or husbands love us because of the marriage. Our family loves us because we share blood. However, friends love us without any such condition or relation. They unconditionally love and care for us without expectations and assurances. We get to share the most amazing kind of love and relation with friends.

With no friends in existence, life would be unimaginably boring. Hence we should never miss the chances to appreciate our friends for their time, care, love and simply friendship. So let us go tell them how much we love them.

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08/July/2020
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4/5 REASONS WHY WE NEED FRIENDS

  1. FRIENDS TAKE AWAY LONELINESS
    Being alone away from the world can be appealing at times but at times loneliness for extended period becomes extremely depressing. Therefore, friends come in handy as the cure for loneliness. They are full time companions in a stranger’s parties, receivers of the late night calls, partners in the class benches and are always present by our sides. Imagine a world without friends, and being alone in the outside world forever is a massive pain to the brain.

There are times when we want to rant and whine away from the boundaries of age and maturity, at such moments all we wish to do is complain and keep complaining without making any sense. Friends lend us the ears to make these possible. Thy don’t judge not preach, rather listen to the nonsense coming out of our mouths pretending to understand.

When heartbreaks or other situations become extremely hard to tolerate, friends offer us their shoulder to shed our tears on. They provide us the loving warm arms that wrap us away from harsh times making us feel like we are surrounded by a hedge of friends at all times.

It could be the ridiculous outfit you are wearing or the partner cheating on you. The friends bring the harsh truth in front of us. Friends make sure we keep our foot on earth when we are away wandering on the seventh heaven with happiness, away from the ugly reality.

Friends are our escape route from loneliness. That is the undeniable fact of all sorts.

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07/July/2020
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3/5 REASONS WHY WE NEED FRIENDS

FUN WITH FRIENDS
  1. FRIENDS ARE OUR COMFORT ZONES
    Pajamas, messy rooms, no makeup, drooling faces, stinky sweat or mooing noise, they don’t care any of it. Our friends have seen us in the highest appearances and situations of life and they still decided to stick by. We feel comfortable around them and there is nothing that can be a hurdle in this comfort zone.
    There are certain crazy things we do only in the presence of our friends that we can’t do in the presence of anybody else who is not a friend. It is just because we have a belief that friends are part of us and instinctively understand us more than anybody else does.
    Being with friends means an opportunity to share and hear endless jokes. We all have those little hints and code words for the people we dislike that only our group of friends know. There is that coded language you use with your friends that no one else would be able to figure out. Those are the moments that remain enlightened in our hearts forever. The jokes about the annoying teacher or boss, the uncivilized guy or overdramatic girl in the locality, the petty deals, are some of the things that can light up the mood anytime and make us feel we are in our comfort zones, thanks to friends.
    Friends are our permanent partners in crime. No matter how serious and sincere we are, our friends have pushed us to break unimaginable rules, which are engraved in our hearts as most memorable fabulous memories recorded in our life timeline. During times of trouble, friends have stayed by our side and shared the responsibilities with fun. They have the strange power of turning every bad moment into hilarious and memorable ones. This makes us feel like we are walking down the path to our comfort zones whenever we are around friends.
    Friends are indeed our comfort zones.

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06/July/2020
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2/5 REASONS WHY WE NEED FRIENDS

  1. THEY BOOST OUR SELF-CONFIDENCE
    We may doubt our abilities and decisions but our true friends will never do so. The word is true friends! Through the most nerve wrecking moments of life, they stand by us confidently making us believe in ourselves. At times we gain the confidence to take risks and huge leaps of faith because of the belief they show.
    Everyone has self-doubts and insecurities from time to time. It’s common to worry about how we look, our performance at school or at work, or how others perceive us. Sometimes we may question whether we said or did the right thing in a special situation or worry about something as minor as whether we picked the right pair of shoes to complement a lot little black dress. Ladies attest to this. Like most people, whenever I am unsure about myself, I tend to ask a friend or close family member for a second opinion.
    Here are five ways friends help us boost our self-confidence:
    ✓ Friends cheer our successes (only true friends I re-echo)
    ✓ Friends model our new ways of being
    ✓ Friends support our efforts to grow
    ✓ Friends wipe away our tears by lending us a shoulder to lean on
    ✓ Friends silently teach us the value of teamwork.
    Therefore we all need that friend who will stick to you closer than a brother if you are to enjoy this benefit. Take note that only and only true friends will help uplift your confidence.

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04/July/2020
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1/5 REASONS WHY WE NEED FRIENDS

  1. SHARING SECRETS
    Friends are secret reservoirs. They are the ones we share with all the little secrets and happenings of life. Secrets about our crush, the kiss, the date, our family problems, the mishaps, the embarrassing moments, the funny stories and the list covers anything and everything in life.
    Divulging a secret to an acquaintance can help you pave the way to friendship much faster than normal. Of course, you don’t want to go running around spilling your deepest, darkest secrets to strangers. Sometimes it might be hard but there are good reasons to share your secrets with friends.
    There are things that are too personal to the extent that our close relatives are not aware of them but surprisingly we confide them in our close friends. For example, none of my siblings or even close relatives knows the person I am currently dating but my close friends have all this information at first hand.
    I remember a time when I lost my uncle. During the funeral, time came when a heir was supposed to be instituted but there was no will left by the deceased. As everyone was contemplating on this hard choice, out of the blue someone came up and presented the will of the deceased. Guess what! This person wasn’t a family member but a friend. The deceased uncle had written his will five years ago and kept it with this friend. Such a secret had been entrusted to a friend rather than his partner or children or even siblings.
    That is exactly what it means to share secrets with a friend. I believe you have secrets that you would rather share with a friend than anyone else.

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03/July/2020
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FRIENDSHIP

FRIENDSHIP
Friendship has no defined terminology. The definition of a friend and friendship is based upon one’s notions.
Human interaction is a necessity to survival but developed friendships are essential for the successful well being of anyone. Human survival is purely based on friendship. From the highest authority to the lowest of people living on the streets, all of them have experienced in some way or the other the different kinds of friendships.
We take this friendship for granted because it is something that exists naturally in society and most of us never really have to go out into the world looking for a friend. Those who have lived in a foreign country or in new surroundings have learned how important this is in life.
Friendship is a gift and I think the glory of friendship is not only the outstretched hand, nor the kindly smile nor the joy of companionship; it is the spiritual inspiration that comes to one when he or she discovers that someone else believes in him and is willing to trust him.
A friend who is emotionally, physically and mentally there for you, when you feel bad or have a problem is usually the one who makes you feel better about yourself.
The feeling of loneliness is enough to drive a person to near madness; therefore, we cannot thrive successful as individuals without having some form of friendship with other individuals.
In the next episode I will discuss five reasons why we need friends all around us. Even the people we consider the worst in the community have got friends they confide in.

02/July/2020

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THE WORTH OF LIVING

“Live your life to the fullest.” A friend seemingly advised me. This piece of advice didn’t tickle my mind at that moment because I thought it was uncalled for. At dawn the next day as I was having my usual meditation in the silence, the statement “live your life to the fullest” re-echoed fondly like a distinct voice from the hills of the countryside.
I decided to give it attention to ponder about what living life to the fullest is. All sorts of questions kept coming up within my subconscious of which some had answers yet others had none. Well, out of the sea of questions, one question stood out.
” What is my purpose in life?” the question goes.
When you have an answer to this mind blowing quiz, then you are on the verge of living life to the fullest. The purpose of your life starts right away from inception in your mother’s womb to the day you will be laid down in your tomb.
Unfortunately the timeline of life is different for every living human being an the sad bit is that none of us can estimate the end point of our life line. This fact leaves me wondering how many people fulfill their purposes in life before departing from earth.
Before embracing salvation I used to ask myself what my purpose in life was on a daily basis. Now that light has shone in my life, I indeed know what my purpose in life is and thus I believe I am living life to the fullest.
The Bible says, “Jesus is the way, the truth and the life.” In other words besides Jesus, you can never know your purpose and living life to the fullest will always be a myth to you.
Are you saved? If not what are you waiting for? Think about it and make a decision now to receive Jesus Christ as you personal savior and you will enjoy life to the brim.
I know you may have excuses and questions of doubt and that is normal but find a friend who is strong in the Lord and seek help.

28/06/2020
Tenywa Cositantine
Life is short, live it. Eternity is forever, prepare for it.

THE TRAP OF REQUIRED RECIPROCITY

THE TRAP OF REQUIRED RECIPROCITY
22/06/2020
This is one of the biggest and most dangerous traps in friendships and relationships. The belief states the following; “If I am doing this great thing for you, you are required to do something equally great for me.” This is a dangerous way of thinking.
Instead, do great things for your friends simply because they are great. Expect nothing in return and you will be surprised what actually comes back to you.
I often meet people who say, ” How can so and so do such a thing to me after all I have done for them?” This is mostly evident in intimacy relationships. The main cause of heartbreaks when relationships are terminated is the thought of required reciprocity.
Whenever you give help or anything to someone while expecting something in return, then you are not helping but you are simply lending. Therefore, when it turns out you don’t receive the expected return, you get hurt. That’s how bad the required reciprocity can be.
You may be thinking, “What about the ones who will just take advantage of my good nature?” Well let them. It is natural people who are unappreciative will always exist and you have no control over that. They are around us, with us and ours. This is not reason enough to halt being good towards them just because they don’t appreciate by offering something in return for your good deeds.
Just have this in mind when doing good to people. Some people give and forgive while others get and forget. Thus, expect nothing in return for your deeds of humanity. When you get the reciprocity, well and good. If it doesn’t come your way, it’s all fine. You are special in your own right and no one else can provide the love you do in your own unique way. Your reward will one day come from God who rewards those who do good.
Remember the Lord delights in a cheerful giver and at the same time blessed is the hand that gives than that which gets. Therefore, you are blessed to be on the giving side and you don’t have to worry about the receiving end of it.

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21/June/2020
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The Dream Factor

Dreams are not the things that fill your head when you sleep. Dreams are the things in your head that do not allow you to sleep.
Traits of dreamers
1. Dreamers follow a pattern, instructions, directions and principles
2. Dreamers must be able to interpret other people’s dreams
3. Dreamers must be able to identify other dreamers
4. Dreamers must be able to decide.

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WRITE DOWN YOUR VISION

We all have dreams, visions and plans in life that we ought to accomplish. Ideas pop up all the time and circulate our minds but sometimes our heads are full to capacity that we can nolonger accommodate new things.
Well, the solutions is just to always write down the new things that cut across your mind.
Personally I always have a pen and notebook on me everywhere I go. Sometimes I even wake up in the morning and write what I dreamed last night.
I know most cases we have very big dreams that we feel they are so impossible and when we tell them to our friends they just laugh off.
Just write them down anyway. Write any new thing, write what has caught your eye, write what you think.
The reason people say your dream is impossible is because it is too big to be accommodated in their minds. Anything the mind can think of is possible.

Habakkuk 2:2
“Then the LORD answered me and said: “Write the vision And make it plain on tablets, That he may run who reads it.”
Writing down your visions reminds you of what you are up to every time you read them.

20th June 2020

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SILENCE SOMETIMES IS NEEDED

Sometimes when we’re angry we say thing we never meant to say. Those words are enough to break a heart and injure a soul. Anger makes our brain work less and our tongue work more. Once said those words can’t be taken back and sometimes they break a healthy relationship. So, think before you speak and when angry, keep silent.Your silence may hurt the ones you love but your nasty words can break them and damage them beyond repair.
Just learn to remain silent when you get angry. It could save you a great deal of trouble.
There is this bible verse I love most. It says that even when a fool keeps quiet, you may think he is wise. That’s the power of silence.
Proverbs 17:28
“Even a fool is counted wise when he holds his peace; When he shuts his lips, he is considered perceptive.”
This simply points out that what we speak especially when we are angry reveals our folly or wisdom.
Quote: “Keeping silent costs no penny but saves a great deal of costs.” Tenywa Cositantine.

19th June 2020

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The Boxing Rule

The 10 second count to declare the winner and loser

Boxing is not one of the games that interest me that much but surprisingly I have learned something from it. I call it the rule of boxing. Here a knock out is only declared when one player falls on the ground and fails to stand up on the count of ten.
I came to realisation that a knock out is not hitting the ground but failing to come back up.
This is what exactly happens in our life during our endeavors to make it to success. All the time we fall (failure) but only those who get back up have another chance to try again. The more times you stand after falling, the more chances you have to keep trying and hence higher possibilities of attaining success.
Most assuredly I believe you have witnessed people who have been able to overturn miachiefs into fortunes. They are simply strong in a sense that they can bend when hit by a catastrophe but resist being broken by the calamity that occurred.
I being a strong believer in God, I beleive in trying over and over again.
In Proverbs 24:16
“For a righteous man may fall seven times And rise again, But the wicked shall fall by calamity.”
The seven times simply means to keep trying or to persist. Falling once does not guarantee the end of the road however tough it is. Just keep getting up and try again.
Rule of boxing: DEFEAT IS NOT DECLARED WHEN YOU FALL DOWN BUT WHEN YOU FAIL TO STAND UP.

18th June 2020

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BEING ORDINARY OR EXTRAORDINARY IS A CHOICE

BEING ORDINARY OR EXTRAORDINARY IS A CHOICE

The difference between ordinary and extraordinary is the little extra.
Extraordinary people always do something extra that the ordinary people. They wake up earlier, work an extra hour, sleep a little late and whatever they do has an extra more than others.
If you want to do extraordinary things, the be willing to go an extra mile beyond others in whatever you do.
Most assuredly, we all have the capabilities to do greater exploits and become extraordinary.
Jesus our Lord confirms to us in John 12:14 (
“Most assuredly, I say to you, he who believes in Me, the works that I do he will do also; and greater works than these he will do, because I go to My Father.”) This scripture reminds us that we can do greater things than even what Jesus did. Now that is being extraordinary. But do you know what the price is? Whatever Jesus did you have to do beyond it.
For example walk an extra mile in prayer, fasting, working, giving, loving, forgiving, being compassionate and the list goes on.
Therefore, casual people produce casual results. Extraordinary people produce extraordinary results. The choice is yours to make.

17th June 2020

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Leadership in a crisis

11/06/2020
Leadership In A Crisis
If you have never gone through a crisis as a leader, then your leadership has not been tested. A crisis exposes one’s leadership abilities and inabilities. There is no doubt that for one to hold a leadership position there are some credibilities he ought to have. Let’s say integrity, honest, growth mindset, being exemplary and the list goes on. Having all these traits makes you a good leader on paper. It takes a crisis to test these qualities practically.
In a crisis, everything cripples down. The world turns against you and everyone will seek to have a leaders’s shoulder to lean on. In fact a crisis exposes people who are not truly on your side, by your side or for your side. Those who stick with you during a crisis are the real people to rely on.
A crisis calls for a leader to take a leap of faith when it comes to decision making. When a crisis happens, two scenarios come up depending on how the leader chooses to see things

  1. The scenario of roses on a thornbush
  2. The scenario of thorns on rosebush
    The one who chooses to see a crisis through the glasses of scenario one is an optimistic leader. He acknowledges the fact that a crisis exists that is the thornbush but he chooses to concentrate his sight on the opportunities (roses) that comes with the crisis. Such a leader never allows to be controlled by the crisis but rather gathers their courage to walk through the storm. These leaders who fall in scenario one do the following;
    ✓ They learn to walk through the rain.
    We have no control over rain and therefore we cannot decide whether it should rain or not. The only ability we have is to learn how to walk in the rain. In a nutshell such leaders adapt all the possibilities that enable them walk through the rain.
    ✓ They learn to be flexible.
    I always say true strength is not the inability to break but rather the ability to bend without breaking. These leaders have mastered the art of being flexible within a crisis. Sometimes the crisis dictates the direction and when you become stiff, you will break. Learn the art of flexibility to play along and any solution you derive must be able to flow downstream along with the current flow rather than going upstream against the current flow.
    ✓ They put there trust in God not man.
    When a crisis comes, it means that no man was able to stop it from happening. Therefore a wise leader will not put there hope and trust in man because what is impossible to man is all possible to God. Men can fail you and you don’t have to sit back and blame man for their failure. You just have to understand that man has limitations and lean on God who has no limitations. Crisis management calls for divine intervention from God not as a last resort remedy but as a priority.
    ✓ They persuade their followers to see what they are seeing.
    When a crisis occurs, everyone sees things differently and have different opinions. The chances are very high that the followers will see things from a different perspective from their leader because despite the fact that they could be looking through the same side mirror, they are all standing at different views of sight.
    Therefore, for a leader to be able to walk through a crisis, he must be able to persuade his followers to see things like he does in order to have them on the same page. Followers being on the same page as their leader is so profound when it comes to overcoming a crisis. Please note, the word is PERSUADE not FORCE .

On the contrary, leaders who choose to see a crisis through the lenses of scenario two are an exact opposite of optimistic leaders. They resort to lamentations, play blame games and find regrets more comforting to them. They never seem to look beyond the storm. These pessimistic leaders will focus all their strength on the crisis (thorns) and forget the roses on the thornbush. They will not see anything good in a crisis but rather proclaim doom all through and definitely failure becomes their final destination.
These leaders who fall in scenario two do the following;
✓ They find ways to run away from the rain and get shelter.
Because they have no control over rain, they choose to find shelter and stay away from the rain. But what do the followers have to do when their leader has simply taken shelter? They will simply follow the leader and take shelter as well. This means everybody runs away from the problem rather than solve it. The unfortunate part with this option is that the crisis remains at liberty to cause any magnitude of damage because those who would have intervened have run away. A problem you run away from today is a double tragedy created for tomorrow.
✓ They always want to remain stiff.
These leaders have a tendency of not harnessing change. They want to solve things the same way they did in the past ignoring the fact that times change and strategies ought to follow suit. A crisis calls for living in a new normal. After a crisis, things can never get back to the old normal. Besides, scientifically, stiff materials are at risk of breaking when tensional force is applied to them and so do such leaders who are unwilling to be flexible.
✓ They are highly convinced that man will solve their problems.
Man can solve problems but only within certain limits. Sometimes a crisis befalls and it’s beyond human understanding, science and technology. In such times, there is need to resort to the supernatural power of God who does what seems to be impossible to man. Funny enough, leaders in the category of pessimism will not see the need for God’s hand in a crisis and with no doubt they always fail.
✓ They don’t see the need of being on the same page with their followers.
Being a leader does not give you absolute power over the followers. Sometimes the leader is required to seek counsel from the followers especially in crisis management. Negotiations and persuasions become key to seeing things in a like manner. The problem comes in when the leader downplays opinions of his followers and chooses to do what pleases him. This will force the followers to also do what pleases them and in the end, they all go in different directions and the end result is tearing apart and the crisis emerges as the winner.

In conclusion, a crisis calls for a leader to realize the importance of collective efforts, while putting God at the center of it all.

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The dream factor

THE DREAM FACTOR
Dreams are not the things that fill your head when you sleep. Dreams are the things in your head that do not allow you to sleep.
Traits of dreamers
1. Dreamers follow a pattern, instructions, directions and principles
2. Dreamers must be able to interpret other people’s dreams
3. Dreamers must be able to identify other dreamers
4. Dreamers must be able to decide.

TAKE AN ACTION OF FAITH

There was a village which didn’t have rain for some time. The village members organized a meeting to discuss a solution to the problem. They conclusively came up with the solution. They agreed to meet and pray to God for the rain. They set the time and venue where they were supposed to gather and pray for the rain.

At the appointed time all people gathered for the noble cause. Among them there was an old lady who did something that surprised everyone. This old lady came along with a raincoat and an umbrella. Everybody was surprised and curiously asked the old woman why she carried along a raincoat on such a hot sunny day.

When asked, she softly answered “We are here to pray for rain so I came prepared because it is going to rain.”

Lesson: As you pray and believe for something take a leap of faith through an action of faith.
Reference scriptures: James 2:17 and Mark 11:24

Quote: If you think you can you can and if you think you can’t, you are right as well.

13th June 2019

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LET YOUR FAILURE BE A LEARNING POINT

Sometimes things don’t go the way we want them to. We make plans, draft schedules, draw budgets and have schematics of how we expect to run our day today routine.
If all these went down as expected, we would live perfect lives.
To my surprise shortcomings bump in, time seems to be on our necks and nature also sets in. In the end most of what we planned for fails.
Scientific experiments that have introduced wonderful results didn’t go as planned in the first trial. It was after many trials for even many years that they materialized.
Lets take an example of Thomas Edison, the inventor of an electric bulb.
Nobody in history was more persistent than Thomas Edison.
The story is legendary that he tried 10,000 times before succeeding in creating his light bulb.
He regarded failure as a learning point for the next trial.
Let us learn from our failures. Let not failure discourage you to give up.
This is what Thomas Edison said after the so many trials. “I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.”

12th June 2019

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